I’d back up and take precautions.
He’s repeatedly telling you he plans on possibly moving out of the country. It might be his way of giving you hints not to count on him long term. When people are telling you things, believe them.
His ex wife doesn’t need to live by him if they are divorced as long as he allowed her to move the kid and didn’t pursue joined custody etc Court will allow you to move if your ex is ok with it. Does he see his child on school breaks or ever?
Odd jobs could be a normal thing to supplement his income but could be also lack of stability in his life. It’s fair to assume he’s not career oriented?
I’d say if you want casual no string attached get togethers, it could be just fine as he sounds like a nice fun guy. But I don’t envision long term. Would he move to your state? Likely not. Would you move to his? Not if he wants to live in the Caribbean!
Of course it’s all too early to say but some (if not all) things are obvious early on. And typically what happens is when things go side ways, we question how we got involved in the first place. And typically things were obvious the first time we met that person, we just didn’t want to pay attention because we wanted romance and butterflies and excitement. That’s what clouds our thinking
But again I might be wrong. Maybe you should ask how serious is he about moving? It might be nothing. Just talking. When we have yet another snow storm, I sometimes say “that’s it, we are moving where it’s warm”. It’s just talk. No one’s moving
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