Your son and your other children have tried to tell you how they do not feel safe with your wife. When they are forced to be with her they feel unheard and powerless.

This in part is a betrayal trauma which is not the same as overall trauma. This takes away from a child’s sense of self esteem and self worth. Your wife taking psych meds AND drinking created behaviors that genuinely frightened your children.

Your wife lives her disease and lies to herself. Your wife has a severe attachment disorder and she is creating this in her own children.

No child should fear their parent.