Hi Mountainbard, I agree with you that people who have negative behavior toward others (at any age) should be ashamed of themselves. (My personal experience in life is that people are as they always have been when they become older as long as they are not in a process of getting dementia or have other physical diseases that sometimes lower their capacity to think clearly).

I believe that sometimes we can misread people and that what we think is bad behavior, may not be meant that way by the sender (the person who said it). They can just have been clumsy with words, psychotic or other.

But of course trolls can find their way to these forums. I have to admit that I haven't seen any trolls here in the time I have used the forum, but if they are "trolling" in private e-posts that isn't something we as a group can see.

My suggestion is:
If a person receives an answer that she or he thinks is meant bad, she or he can report that to a moderator. The moderator can then see if the forum rules are broken. If there is anything wrong in the reported post, the moderator will be able to send a friendly reminder or a warning (I have been a moderator in another forum).

If everybody can take responsibility to do that when they think somebody meant to hurt them with bad language or whatever, all the others don't have to be involved in the discussion.

It is disturbing to read about that somebody is "trolling" (trolling is my word). I think that perhaps it disturbs almost all the members of the group when suddenly a post pups up accusing somebody of "trolling" or using "bad language" (as MI sufferers we often struggle with consentration - we do not always find the right words we want to use). I say this because somebody can think the general complaint about "bad language" is meant toward them when they read about it. That means that more then one person will not feel comfortable being part of the forum. Such disturbances is not necessary to the flock as a whole.

Let us try to be generous and kind to each other, and not to look for "an inner evil" or bad in languageskills in somebody else as soon as we see a clumsy sentence come from some who herself/himself is a sufferer (who might be in a situation where it is difficult to find the right words).

By the way:

Congratulation to you with all these good years in between!

Good wishes to you and everybody else!

I hope this stops now! (Others have commented before you took it up).