I'm not at all judging you, as I've done this, too. Honestly, if you think you can manage to keep it inside (and don't think you'll just randomly say it), I wouldn't tell her. I had a conflict with ex-T when I told her I'd found her Facebook page. And I've had a couple conflicts with my current T about this, within the first year or so I was seeing him. He actually told me that he'd prefer I *not* tell him that I've searched or found things.

Finding a T on social media--to me, it's on them to lock that sort of thing down (and potentially ask relatives to not post pics of her, tag her, etc.). It's not difficult to do, at least on Facebook. T's should realize that clients may be looking. However, it seems that they can react rather unpredictably to a client sharing something like that. And this is made more complicated by your knowing what happened in her family.

So I think it's better not to say anything, particularly with her being fairly new. If you'd been seeing her for 5 years and she knew you tended to google her, that might be different. But I think it's too risky to share right now

Again, I want to clarify that I'm not judging you. But I don't know what your T's reaction will be, so I think it's safer not to tell her.

I *would* tell her that you struggle to feel connected between sessions and talk about possible solutions for that.