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Originally Posted by KLL85
I can relate to how you feel I found my last T’s account on a social media and scrolled through about 5 years worth of posts. I found out a lot of stuff about him and his family.
I didn’t tell him for a year as I was terrified he was terminate and I was so ashamed. But eventually I knew that what I was reading was negatively influencing my parental transference towards him, so I plucked up the courage and admitted I’d been stalking his page. I was a sobbing wreck and he simply said ‘If you think I’m angry with you, then I’m absolutely not. If you feel guilty then there is no need. All I would say at the moment is that clearly this is not something that is helping you so it might be best not to look at it again, but that isn’t me telling you not to, and I certainly won’t be angry if you do, it’s just me wanting us to have the best chance of helping you.’
In the end I asked him to block me, which he did and we had some really useful conversations about things that I had seen on there and how they made me feel.
He also made it clear that it was his responsibility to think about the fact that there is always going to be the chance his clients will come across his account and that it’s for him to manage and only put things on there he is comfortable with them knowing. And I think that’s an important point for you to remember with your situation.
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Thank you for this. The thing is though, I found this information via one of T's family members profiles. Hers is very private and I have had to go to great lengths to find out any information at all. I feel like that just makes what I have done so much worse. I was thinking of just telling her how I still look up my past T's on social media as it does relate to the work we are doing and see how she responds to that first. I might tell her that I have looked her up to but don't feel comfortable discussing what I found out yet. I really don't want her to terminate me as I am still going through so much grief over my previous T leaving last November and I just can't handle that happening again.
I'm also worried I won't have enough time discuss all of the things that have been going on as my session is cancelled this week and I will have to somehow manage another week on my own.