I think it’s kind of normal looking up people. I don’t think it’s a big deal or offensive. It would be much more intrusive if lets say you look them up and then keep showing up delivering unsolicited items to their doors or calling and hanging up or hiding in the bushes in their yard or other stalking activities.

I think it’s ok to share with a t that you have hard time connecting and want to look her up for those reasons. It might prompt a good discussion