I agree, comrademoomoo. It’s important to have hope! And I do believe healing is possible - I know it’s possible.

I think I felt so blamed because what this person was saying seemed to be so black-and-white. That if you’re still suffering - at all, ever - you’re kind of choosing to suffer because you’re choosing not to move on. That feels blaming to me. I’d like to believe in healing but in a more nuanced way.