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Originally Posted by unaluna
I just wanna say, how can you get mad at people implying your morals might be a little loose for sleeping with him so soon, then take some moral high ground for his own personal preferences? Isnt that being a hypocrite? You can do what you want, but he cant do what he wants? You call it a deal-breaker, but it just seems controlling to me. It's not fair. And it doesn't seem wise. Thinking you can interfere between a man and his porn - he will just lie to you, and think less of you.
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Una, we can agree to disagree on this topic. I have read your posts on this topic previously, and I know you defend people's rights to watch porn. Please respect MY dealbreakers, and how is it hypocritical of me? I don't see that perspective at all. Just because we're sleeping together doesn't mean I can't have standards that I stick to when dating..... IF we were to become serious, porn and strip clubs are dealbreakers. And if he likes that stuff and if he needs it in his life while dating someone, then it's not my cup of tea and we can go our separate ways. Please respect this, is what I ask for. You come across almost antagonistically and accusatory, & not in a supportive manner.. and you were recently very supportive in my other thread..
and, I will also say that MANY women are offended by porn and strip clubs and don't want their men going to these clubs or watching porn. It's hurtful behavior to a multitude of women and only certain women don't mind it. But for many, it's harmful and it hurts the woman's sense of security and and self esteem. if you cannot understand or appreciate that other perspective, then I don't know what to say.