A couple of days ago, I sat down with my partner and told him that it would be nice to say I love you in person occasionally. He told me he was more physical and although difficult...I said I did okay I understand. I decided to listen to him and accepted that it was true. However, the next day I had a lot going on (a busy schedule that I had to eat on the way) ..I explained to him earlier that I wouldn't be able to meet up but could do face-time. He thought I was avoiding him so I said I wasn't, although stressed and tired...I met up with him. When he picked me up to head to the gym... I put a smile on my face and spoke about our days. While talking, I stopped and said, "Hey, where is my hug and kiss" [ sweet way]... I opened my arms and he dodged it to kiss my belly... [ i am currently 31 weeks pregnant] and I did not feel upset about him showing affection to the baby.. except I felt invalidated. I did not react at the moment but did ask where is my hug with a smile... and all he said was where is my hug?.... Instead of me being upset.... I was like okay and proceeded to hug him. He should no interest & thats when I asked if there was anything wrong... He said yes that he was thinking about last night. I was shocked because I thought we came to agreement that our discussion that previous night was solved. I did not get angry at that but was EXTREMELY upset by the way he reacted towards me when I needed was a hug ... he says I exaggerated. Am I wrong for feeling the way I did? I did not want to start an argument & now I am fearful that when I mention issues , his reaction will be to pull his affection away. I need guidance because I am completely lost & do not know if I should leave him?
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