My ex abusive husband is OCD and it drove me insane. He was very controlling of me in every way. He even told me I was pouring my juice incorrectly!!!!

Living this way is no way to live. If it doesn't change, I'm afraid you will only just become more and more miserable under these circumstances. Your husband is far too controlling of you.. he shouldn't be standing over you while you try to cook, he shouldn't be creating all this pressure on you for the house to be spotless at all times, even while you're cooking, for goodness sakes. And taking your credit card away? Very controlling.

Can you confront him and do you feel comfortable bringing up to him the fact that he's being controlling of you? That's my first piece of advice, is to try and talk with him about it directly and see if he's willing to accommodate your wishes and make some important changes. I would let him know that he's making you anxious and nervous all the time, which is what contributes to wanting to drink during the day to calm your nerves. He needs to back off and get his OCD under greater control.

If you don't feel you can approach and reason with him, then I would suggest a neutral third party, or a couples therapist. If he's not willing to see a therapist, then that will tell you a lot about his willingness to work with you on the marriage. IF he's willing to see a therapist, then you may have a chance.

And, if he's not willing to see a therapist or talk with you reasonably about it, then I would say your only other option is to consider leaving him. Otherwise, it will just continue and you will continue to be miserable. Life is far too short to be miserable in your marriage.