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Originally Posted by divine1966
Yes it’s very damaging for couples sex life. Many can’t even have normal relationship because of it.
But in a long run it doesn’t even matter if porn is great and strip clubs are awesome. Wanting or not wanting a particular kind of partner doesn’t make one controlling or unreasonable. I wouldn’t date or marry men who smoke weed. It’s pointless to argue that it’s legal and very good for you. I don’t care if it’s the best thing ever. And it doesn’t mean I want to control who smokes weed. Lol they are free to smoke all day every day! They just aren’t going to be my partners! No one is obligated to date anyone.
Of course it’s harder to find out if they watch porn than other things but usually if they lie about that, they lie about other things. And as we get older it should be easier to spot liars. Just have to pay close attention
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I agree - and I have standards now that I may not have had in the past with potential partners.
I don't mind weed - as long as it's not a real addiction - that's where I draw the line. If it's used daily but if we go on a trip, can they do without it for a few days? My husband could not go without it and became extremely cranky and difficult on our honeymoon, and when he didn't have weed. That told me right then that it was an addiction.
Jay smokes weed.... I smoke weed on occasion, but more so I eat edibles. So, I cannot be a hypocrite about this.
What I want to know is:
(1) is he responsible or irresponsible
(2) is weed an addiction or can he do without
(3) can he do without strip clubs and porn, or does he need these in his life
(4) how does he treat ME, very importantly
(5) is he emotionally stable/healthy
(6) is he emotionally available, communicative, and mature
(7) does he have strong morals and ethics and is he decent, respectful, and kind
Of course there's much more to consider like religious and political beliefs and overall values, but these are the questions and answers I want to get to the bottom of with him, as we get to know each other better.