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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I agree - and I have standards now that I may not have had in the past with potential partners.
I don't mind weed - as long as it's not a real addiction - that's where I draw the line. If it's used daily but if we go on a trip, can they do without it for a few days? My husband could not go without it and became extremely cranky and difficult on our honeymoon, and when he didn't have weed. That told me right then that it was an addiction.
Jay smokes weed.... I smoke weed on occasion, but more so I eat edibles. So, I cannot be a hypocrite about this.
What I want to know is:
(1) is he responsible or irresponsible
(2) is weed an addiction or can he do without
(3) can he do without strip clubs and porn, or does he need these in his life
(4) how does he treat ME, very importantly
(5) is he emotionally stable/healthy
(6) is he emotionally available, communicative, and mature
(7) does he have strong morals and ethics and is he decent, respectful, and kind
Of course there's much more to consider like religious and political beliefs and overall values, but these are the questions and answers I want to get to the bottom of with him, as we get to know each other better.
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Yes that’s why we all have different deal breakers. And ones aren’t better than others. Just different.
Yes you have your own personal expectations and standards and have rights to pursue someone according to those.
Like weed for you it’s a non issue. For me I don’t want it in my life. Different deal breaker
But I am married to someone who has different political views than mine. Yes it’s annoying at times but not a deal breaker. I can live with it. As long as it’s not in my face. But I know people who’d not marry someone whose political views differ. They have a different deal breaker. We also have different religious beliefs. It’s a non issue as we respect each others faith, and honor both traditions. I know people for whom different faith is a deal breaker. And it’s perfectly fine! But I have many deal breakers that are non issues for others. And it’s just fine!
We are all different! That’s the beauty of it.