That man is like your jailer - excessive control of you and, really, he blocks your credit card so you can't buy wine?? Financial abuse too. You are a prisoner in your own home.

You don't need therapy, *he* does. If he won't change, you need to decide how much longer you can put up with such a controlling man. Because this is going to be your life with him - unable to do anything you want and/or enjoy and you'll be his puppet.

What is the point of being in a dictatorship like that? Because it most certainly is not a relationship.