Tisha, what are your husbands parents like?

I am thinking you grew up with a very emotional and demanding mother and you were drawn into her drama until you got older and realized how unhealthy her drama was.

There are people that are very addicted to drama. They tend to be very needy and look for ways to become the center of attention.

The other thing I see is that you are recently an empty nester. That can be very hard to adjust to in itself. In addition to that your husband retired early and is around a lot. That too is hard yet also you moved to a small apartment so now he is really in your space constantly. It’s not surprising you got to a point where you needed your own place.

Some men are just dumb and unresponsive to emotional needs. It’s not necessarily intentional abuse, it’s just flat and unresponsive.

Keeping you in the loop with the vacation is not necessarily meant as punishment. That is something your mother would do so it’s probably where your mind and emotions go on a deep subconscious level.