Yep, you summed that up well. No matter what's going on, they can twist it to make it about them.

Around here, we don't tell him things unless and until it's necessary because he will make it about himself, even if it has nothing to do with him.

Here are a couple of people who come to mind:

Dr Ramani makes good videos

My favorite (that I still watch a lot) is Surviving Narcissism with Dr Les Carter. He's very down to earth and I find him soothing to listen to. He's been doing a bit on covert narcissism lately.

Angie Atkinson made good videos, sometimes a little blunt and direct, but entertaining too. I think she passed away unexpectedly recently, but she made some good ones.

Oh, Prof Sam Vaknin. He's a self aware narcissist. Some of his videos are excellent, but i find him grating after a short time.

If I think of any others, I'll post em.

Maybe some others here know of other good YT channels?