She reckons she wants to help me remember for my sake, i know from experience though that when i start talking about stuff that happened to me, she will start to say about her own traumas (not in a i know how you feel way, but in a reassure me about this and that and the other, type of way)

Thats why i havent said to her that Tiggers going into the vet next tuesday cause her back legs are not good, she will use that as a reason to start asking for reassurance again about her own stuff, happens every time .....