Paying attention to how you are feeling is important. What is equally important to understand that feelings are not always the actual reality of what is taking place. Instead it’s your perception of what may be taking place based on your own experiences and history.

The trend has been labeling people as abusers and embracing a victim mentality when a person doesn’t fit into a box of what we think they need to be so we don’t feel bad. There are qualities another person may simply not be capable of having because they don’t have the aptitude for it.