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Originally Posted by jesyka
My friend is a people pleaser who rarely sticks up for herself. Ironically shes a humsn resources manager. Weird!
She also let this other lady get away without paying fir sn expensive meal after she bragged about how mych money her husband have. Disgusting! I’d never allow anyone to do thst to me.
My friend does feel sorry for her. Maybe this loser cried crocodile tears & made up nee lies. & more fake promises to change. I think thst she’s gullible & ahe has trouble saying no at times directly.
I was surprised thst she said no to buying her lunch recently when I wasn’t there. Maybe being neeeded & helping others makes her feel good, idk.
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I have a couple of thoughts to add to what the others said:
- You call her "mooch," "loser" and have a lot of scorn for her, yet it sounds like she has serious psychiatric problems. To my understanding it's hard to qualify for SSI. I'm in Canada and it's fairly difficult to qualify for disability here and it's my understanding it's harder in the US.
This doesn't mean you have to be friends with her (of course not) but remember to have compassion. I assume she may be hoping others pay because she is on a very small income. Since she's 38 she may be expected to buy her own food and clothing and other things with her $600 a month, and possibly pay rent to her parents (my husband's niece is on disability of $1,100 a month but pays $500 to her mother for rent).
There is a stigma to living on disability and it's not easy, but not everyone can work (I have worked my whole life BTW). Psychiatric disabilities can be invisible unless you live with someone and know how incapacitated they are.
I don't know her and I don't know why she behaves like that. I'm just saying try to be understanding of your friend remaining in touch with her. You can always avoid talking about her, but please don't badmouth her, because you really don't know what another person is going through.