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Originally Posted by Samicat
I have a couple of thoughts to add to what the others said:
- You call her "mooch," "loser" and have a lot of scorn for her, yet it sounds like she has serious psychiatric problems. To my understanding it's hard to qualify for SSI. I'm in Canada and it's fairly difficult to qualify for disability here and it's my understanding it's harder in the US.
This doesn't mean you have to be friends with her (of course not) but remember to have compassion. I assume she may be hoping others pay because she is on a very small income. Since she's 38 she may be expected to buy her own food and clothing and other things with her $600 a month, and possibly pay rent to her parents (my husband's niece is on disability of $1,100 a month but pays $500 to her mother for rent).
There is a stigma to living on disability and it's not easy, but not everyone can work (I have worked my whole life BTW). Psychiatric disabilities can be invisible unless you live with someone and know how incapacitated they are.
I don't know her and I don't know why she behaves like that. I'm just saying try to be understanding of your friend remaining in touch with her. You can always avoid talking about her, but please don't badmouth her, because you really don't know what another person is going through.
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I don’t lack compassion. She doesn’t deserve my pity or sympathy as she LIED to both of us more than once. I don’t like or trust liars.
She lied about having money so she could mooch of me & my other friend. She took advantage of another friend who psid $30 for an event & made that clear. This woman only paid my friend back $15.
Having mental health issues does not excuse bad behavior like lying. Also, she does NOT pay rent. It doesn’t look like she goes shopping much as she tends to wear the same stuff often.
Her mom gives her money. She doesn’t budget. She goes to Starbucks often for drinks. Getting coffee there costs $6 or more.
She doesn’t have a car or any expenses that I’m aware of. If she doesn’t have money, she hen she should not go out or go out less often or suggest free to liw cost places to go to.
She lied about not getting my friend concert tickets since her phone ‘wasn’t working. My friend called her out on her b.s saying that she wouldn’t be able to trxt her if her phone wasn’t working.
AND it doesn’t excuse her extremely selfish attito whete ALL she can do is whine about her problems & hiw she was bullied for the millionth time. And she was obviously very jealous of me as she didn’t want to hear anything about my trip. All she could do was whine about how she never gets to go anywhere!
Who wants to hear someone repeat themselves all the time? She NEVER once asked my friend anything about us or asked how we’re doing.
Everything was about her. She expected the workd to revolve around her & her needs only. She actrd bored with us whenever we talked to each other or ourselves.
I do understand that it’s hard to live off so little. It’s still enough for food for one oerson. I’m sure that her parents pay for everything else like health care. Her mom gives her rides & pays for her classes at schoool too.
Sorry to hear about your neices situation. She at least helos out unlike this greedy mooch. Btw, would YOU still give her a chance if she lied to you more than a few times?