Hi

I'm much like you. There's a lot I had to confront jn the past year.

I really, really believe in long term commitment too.

There is a cyclical nature in borderline relationships of ideation, frustration, degradation/anger, distancing (threatening divorce), and then coming back around.

My wife threatened divorce regularly, almost monthly, for years.

Finally *she* couldn't take my abuse and lack of commitment. We separated in January.

It hurts a lot.

You'll be able to see my progression and changing in my thinking in the part year by reading my posts.

I posted a summary on thd Personality Place Borderline Personality forum a couple of days ago.

Keep something in mind..... Whatever you allow in your home becomes normalized for your kids. You have hard choices to make, and so does your spouse. Read my post on the Borderline forum, please.

RDM