hi RD Mercer,

My husband never allow me to talk or say anything. If I talked, I might get beat up. He already curse and on the top of his lung and he will continue to carry his anger day after day even week after week. He has anger issues which he inherited from his dad. His dad used to beat his mom so often when he was young. He told me that and all his cousins witnessed it and told me about his dad too. His cousins whom I am close with also recommended me to divorce him too. They love him, don't get me wrong. He treats them(his cousins) and outside people very well and generous. None of my good friends know about my suffer and his personality disorder at home. He always acts as a perfect husband to our neighbor and friends. When he is happy, he would do anything for me and my kids. however, his anger would lit up so fast and he would exploded even a tiny thing. For example, one time my younger daughter's good friend 's birthday was coming up, I wanted to send a cake to my daughter's good friend but it happened my daughter's friend was on vacation and her family lives in a apartment, so I couldn't send the cake until she came back on the 15th of the month. On the 15th , It happened I had very bad allergies on that day and took a lot of Benadryl for the next few days. I was very drowsy and slept most of the days. 2 days later which was the 17th, my husband asked me while I was sleeping due to the Benadryls if I sent the cake to my daughter's friend, I sat up and said " oh I totally forgot about it and would do it now". My husband all suddenly exploded and pointed his index finger to my face and said " if you want to live with me, you better don't forget thing" his anger lit up like a wildfire or like some devil had processed him. He continued cursed me the entire evening and shut me out for weeks. He acted like I had committed a big crime. My younger daughter(14 years old) came to comfort me and told me that what 's a big deal If the birthday gift was 2 days late. My daughter said " that is very abusive of him" Of course, she comforted me without her father present. During this time, my eldest daughter was in college and stayed in the dorm. This is just an example of my husband exploded his anger.