Your thread got me thinking about her. In the course of the life long friendship, I did plenty wrong, too. There was good times, good treatment, support peppered with digs, slights, thoughtless comments. There was the smack talk and gossip that I felt was typical of women. It is typical, but it isn’t right. I regret all this now.

There have been really hurtful comments different people have made to me over the years that were so stinging they really got under my skin. Had I been an angel, those insults wouldn’t have been hurled at me. I was so in shock because I felt I didn’t deserve those comments, thought it was really out there and over the top of why those people even thought to say them to me. I must have deserved it, having done something to them I wasn’t aware of, or having put out some vibe, showed some behavior, said some comments that showed me to be a bad person to them.

Anyway, I don’t want to hijack your thread. It’s not about me.

I hope you work out this struggle with your friends. I think you will have a fight with your friend if you try to convince her to not be friends with the other one you don’t care for. All you can do is just don’t go out with the both of them together. Just see the friend you like by yourselves. You may lose the friend you do like. She may choose the other friend over you.