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Originally Posted by Elephantmangos
Hi Have Hope,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. What you have described is exactly what I have been going through. I feel relieved that I am not alone. I still can't believe that I have put up this long. I finally see the light at the end of a tunnel. It will be a scary road ahead and will be rough emotionally and physically. I believe that I will go through it and come out alive one day hopefully  . I will continue to come to this forum for mental supports. Hopefully one day , I could tell you all that I am healed. It won't be easy on my end because I have invested so much time and energy for this marriage. |
Hey there... you're welcome. Glad I can help. You are definitely not alone.
Be prepared for him to change directions and to start begging and pleading for you not to divorce. Even though he said he wants a divorce.
Abusers typically have trouble letting their victim go.
Mine has tried to hold onto me with a tight grip...
it's been a battle, in so many ways..
and I've made mistakes along the way through our separation and divorce process. I've slept with my ex, despite us going through a divorce.
He is making all these promises, of change.. which is very common for abusers once you decide you're done and want to truly leave. They don't like being abandoned. And there is their battle.
So, just be prepared for the unexpected.
He may/may not fight you on this. If he's already secured another victim, then he may not. But, even with another victim lined up, abusers are still known to pursue.
Feel free to PM me, if you want, because I've been through it all. I am happy to provide any support you may need. I know how hard it is.. it's an up and down and emotional process. But be resolute in your decision. That's the best advice I can give.. that will carry you through. Hugs and strength to you.