Hey. Wow, what an experience. As I was reading I was wondering how I would have responded in the same circumstance (but with my therapist). I think I would have done the same as you. I would have been torn between wanting to give him some space to manage things himself (and so my trying to be respectful with that) and also between wanting to soothe or comfort him in some way (and so my reaching out to him with some words or gesture). I expect... I would have given him space because when I'm not sure what to do my default is nothing.

I'm sure she would have seen the look of compassion and gentle concern on your face similarly to how you see that in her sometimes. I think that sometimes therapists struggle with the same thing with us - with figuring out the best way to respond to us when we are upset. With whether they should say something soothing or whether they should respectfully be quiet so that we can process things alongside them sometimes.