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Old Apr 05, 2023, 01:27 AM
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Originally Posted by moodyblue83 View Post
My big problem, thought wise , is feelings of guilt. Even for things I haven't even done or should feel any responsibility for.

I remember my mother basically apologized for breathing.

My father was a scumbag who cheated and hit her. She died young and I've always felt I should have died with her.

I've had survivors guilt for the last 30 years. I don't deserve to be happy. I can feel for people who are accused wrongfully for doing something they didn't do.
Guilt is an awareness of having done something wrong. Shame is a painful feeling about how we appear to others, without having done anything wrong.

You weren't responsible for your Mother's death, nor for your Father's actions towards her. You might feel guilty that you are alive when she isn't, but you were a child, dealing with circumstances beyond your control.
It wasn't your fault.

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