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Thanks, guys. No, this was a real true dumping. I quit her group, so she quit me and my being a member of her group was not even a part of the original deal.

No, no referrals, nothing.

I feel SO stupid. Why do I allow myself to get hurt like this????

Okie

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People like this therapist are of the worst kind, as they pretend to be empathetic and professional, but are really into being a therapist for a different reason that is both self gratifying and about control.

I'm really good now, after multiple former therapists that I discontinued with---at finding BIG RED FLAGS that show through. However, I'm very intuitive, and I don't think everyone has the ability to pay close enough attention to see phony therapists from a real, professional therapist who has EMPATHY.

Sorry phony therapist kids-- the mandatory pre-requisite for a therapist is to have EMPATHY; everything evolves around that.
UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD of the CLIENT!!!! This T. disgusts me--she essentially has her way with her patients after she has won them over with her phony charm; this is praying on people when they are at their worst.

But what do you do in your situation? Well, I was in your situation in terms of phoniness etc., however I dumped them before they dumped me; I never felt comfortable with them, so I moved on pretty fast. I knew it wasn't me that was just nervous, it was THEIR words and actions that were dishonest and they didn't know I had radar I think experiences like this are really good in a way, because now you will be more intuitive to the BIG RED FLAGS that the phony, unprofessional, self-gratifying therapists in the future, and thus--able to help others navigate the waters. I've been able to get three people to go to therapy, and they are far better for it.

The trick is to never give up... never never never... Go through 40 if you have to; drive further out of town, whatever it takes to get a good therapist. I'm really sorry okiedokie. It's not your fault, and it's not because you are unlikeable or stupid. Don't fall for that trap she set. She's not worth your emotional energy.

What's your plan for your next step?