Your former friend obviously didn’t respect your boundaries. Some people deliberately test your boundaries & violate them if you don’t enforce them. They don’t want you to have boundaries as they want to be able to gaslight, control, manipulate & disrespect you.

One former friend of mine was a huge control freak. She tried to control me by telling me how to act & think properly out of ‘concern’. She claimed that she wanted to hrlp me ‘fir in’ & be ‘liked’ by never telling people the word no. She said it’s ‘rude’ to be direct & honest.

She says it hurts people le feelings & that I needed to become a butt kissing people pleaser line her if I ever wanted anyone to like & accept me

My honesty made her uncomfortable, so she yried hard to gaslight & manipulate me She used my insecurities against me by telling me that her other friends don’t like it when I don’t want to play the boring & hard strategy games that they do.

She even accused me of ‘ruining’ a game I played for just a few minutes. I gave up since it was hard & extremely boring too. Thst’s ridiculous!

She pressured me into trying to play these boting games instead of the party games. I resented her for that. She told me that I meed other people but they don’t need me.

I proved her wrong as she desperately needed me to gossip about this former friend every single day for sn hour over the phone! It was to much! O one else wanted to lusten to her repeat the same stories!

Another mutual friend was annoyed by her too & found her to be to needy, needing way to much attention & validation, thought she was fame, lacked empstht, was to gossippy, to nosy, tslked to mu ch, repeated herself to much & that she thought she was to intrusive & controlling too.

She kicked her out of the game group after me for not wanting to conform to the group’s unspoken rules to never say anything ‘negative’ abour her .

She would constantly interrupt & talk over me even when I told her yo please not do that. She krpt doing it. I didn’t let her suffer the consequences for bad behavior at first.

I just yelled at her instead of ignoring her. She stopped listening to me talk once I established boundaries. Then she a cused me of bring intolerant if her quirks when I set boundaries & camled them ‘restrictions’. lol.

She was obviously gaslighting me. She thought that I’m naieve, gullible & extremely stupid since I wasn’t as smart as her in most ways

I’m not stupid, but she thought I was since I’m not a super nerdy type like she is, lol.

She lost teo genuinely nice people by trying to control us.