If your wife has personal property in your home that she wants have her send you a list so you can put these things outside or in the garage for her to pick up. That way you can make sure the children will not be there and she isn’t in the house wandering around. Keep strong boundaries.

I would ask the lawyer if it’s ok if you change the locks so she can’t just show up and walk in. Your children should not have to worry about her suddenly invading them in any way.