I am so sorry you are in this situation, and with 2 young children. I agree that it sounds like your wife has a psychiatric disorder, is perhaps Bipolar, however unless she is willing to see a doctor and therapist that doesn't help you. A "strong and independent woman" doesn't cheat on her husband and go on dates while still married. That is more the mentality of a defiant teenager. Also a strong woman doesn't neglect her kids.


I too am wondering if she is drinking or doing drugs. Again, the answer doesn't help you unless she is willing to get treatment.


I would not turn down a 300k/year job for her, because it sounds to me like her mind is made up and she is on a path of self destruction. Are you Catholic? If so that's hard as Catholics don't recognize divorce.


My father was Bipolar and he was helped by Lithium. For him it was his wonder drug. I wish your wife would agree to go for psychiatric assessment because she is throwing away an attentive, loving husband and her children for what? Partying? She's going to have an ocean of regret.