Hi nonnightowl I did delete my post. I tend to blather on LOL and felt like I was being repetitive.

What I did post about was the fact that people's priorities and interests have everything to do with how they treat other people. If the OP's priorities and interests aren't aligned with these women friends', of course they're going to clash personality-wise.

I don't agree with anyone who promotes the privileged (and very misguided) assumption, "It's not about you." Um. Yes it is. That's why we have stigmas and stereotypes and biases. It's always about the 'you.' (The other person)

People are judgmental and mean and biased. There's no denying it, because it's a fact. And, there's no denying that people's treatment of you is based on their perception of you.

If someone likes and respects you, they treat you that way. If they don't like you and don't respect you, then they mistreat you.

The whole assumption that people's priorities and interests are a reflection of them and not the other person, I just don't agree with at all.