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Apr 06, 2023, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

You're right about them not being mature enough or having the kind of communication skills to be honest about this connection. People who want a more deeper connection will respond in kind, to the other person making that gesture.

True, I wouldn't call them friends---just acquaintances. If they consider themselves friends of OP, then their definition of friendship is drastically different.

I don't know what you mean by women in their 50's have etched out their lives, unless you mean they are just too busy with their lives for a real friendship?

If so, not for me. As I posted, I believe one MAKES time for what's important. And if a friendship is important, then it's a priority and other things take a backseat.

I use the analogy of a garden that needs tending to grow. If you neglect it, it will wither and die. It needs nourishment and attention. Similar to a house being sturdy. Without a good foundation, it will crumble.

I like your analogy of a garden/friendships and I agree with neglecting friendships means like a plant, they wither and die if not tended to.

My "etched out lives" comment about women in our 50s, is that by that age, most women have established friendships with other women and don't prioritize room for new friendships. That is a generalization of course, based on my own projection of being 52 with few friends and many acquaintances.