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Apr 06, 2023, 12:53 PM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,517
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Originally Posted by Motts
I like your analogy of a garden/friendships and I agree with neglecting friendships means like a plant, they wither and die if not tended to.
My "etched out lives" comment about women in our 50s, is that by that age, most women have established friendships with other women and don't prioritize room for new friendships. That is a generalization of course, based on my own projection of being 52 with few friends and many acquaintances.
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I unfortunately don't have those friendships but many acquaintances. Even so, I always have room for new friendships; I don't believe it's possible to have "too many friends." Being how I've had people pass away, move away, or ghost me, it's always a good thing to be open to a new person. I'm not saying anyone can replace someone else, no way. But too many friends? Not a thing.
I'm almost 10 years older than you and have read it's much harder to make new friends when you're older. Also I don't have the spouses, children, and grandchildren that a lot of women my age have. So they don't have the time to invest in anything new; they have plenty of support and their lives are full.
COVID certainly played a role, with people not wanting to be around other people so you lose that interaction. Or the people you used to see a lot, you don't anymore. So that routine or interaction just breaks down. Friendships to me seem situational at times, meaning it keeps going as long as you see them in a certain context. School is a good example. Back in those days it was easier to make friends since you see the same kids in class or around campus.
But after school ended, so did those friendships. I'm not in touch with anyone I knew in my youth. I envy people who have had friendships with people since kindergarden!
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