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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I’m sorry, unfortunately it sounds like your wife has two issues that make her very self absorbed. She has ptsd and abused alcohol. She may take new meds but if she continues to abuse alcohol it’s very bad.
It’s understandable you feel lonely. Are you seeing a therapist? You need something outside of this world of her to help you have your own identity and also be around others you can interact with that are more normal and healthy.
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Yes I talk to someone weekly and it helps but you are right, I do need something outside my world of her and be around others who are more healthy.
I am going to look into some activities outside the home and perhaps join some groups/clubs that do that activity.
I live in a very rural area and we moved away from all my older friends and contacts though I keep in touch on the phone. My good friend of almost 40 years keeps telling me it's not me, it's her and I need to rip the band-aid off but I can't bring myself to give up. He insists she is a narcissist and that if I don't there will be nothing left in my heart/soul . He might be right but I cling to hope. He says even if this works out this time she will just loose it again down the road and that I deserve better, someone who isn't damaged. Am I just so desperate that I can't see things for what they are ?
I still love her so very much and overall our communication is far better then it was 4 months ago . She often now talks of how WE need to do this to the house or WE should go here in the summer which is water for my parched soul .
To me this is a sign of things getting better but then some days it's back to freezing cold emotionally, not hurtful just nothing .