It’s ok if you experience something and fall backwards and need to vent in your thread.

It’s actually normal to gain and slip the way you described. Please keep in mind that your wife already knows how to push your buttons. You are just slowly learning and you will still experience some codependent habits/feelings/sensitivities.

Often it really is a one day at a time process. You are a nice man so of course you don’t want to share negative things about your wife You can learn to detach with love. You don’t have to engage in toxic.