I feel healthier away from her. Not even healthier, I feel stronger.

Yes, every interaction causes a cognitive dissonance and shakes my confidence terribly.

While she consumed a lot of alcohol, I still view this as a personality disorder that was amplified by alcohol and outside influencers, not as primarily alcohol use disorder.

I tried to talk to her almost a year ago about the effect of alcohol on her brain. She said it didn't apply to her.

"If the threshold where they see brain changes in women is 400ml of wine a day for 10 years, and you're double that and not eating well, then it applies to you."

No it doesn't apply. If that was true they'd see it in lots of people.

"They do. In everyone they examine. Everyone. That's why it's identified as the threshold. They see it in 100% of women they examine."

No. That's not true. It doesn't apply.

So.... Yes, there are concerns about the degree of alcohol intake, and that it's effected her thinking.