I wonder if your wife sends you these texts to keep you unbalanced and unsure. In your situation it might be healthier to communicate via lawyer and perhaps when it’s about kids, via parenting app-there are couple of those out there.

Stop reading texts.

Stop assuming she is in pain. Maybe she is and maybe she isn’t and if she is, she caused it herself. I don’t know why you blindly believe her.

When you first started posting I recall you kept saying your wife is too sick to work or do anything around the house and is pretty much bed ridden. Turns out she can work just fine, doesn’t have a deadly disease and when she was unable to function she was chugging alcohol all day, no one would be able to work or get out of bed. You’ve been buying her BS for years. She used and abused you and continues doing so.

Get off the merry go round. You cannot cgange her or fix her or remove her self inflicted pain. File for divorce. Move on with your life