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Originally Posted by RDMercer
I feel healthier away from her. Not even healthier, I feel stronger.
Yes, every interaction causes a cognitive dissonance and shakes my confidence terribly.
While she consumed a lot of alcohol, I still view this as a personality disorder that was amplified by alcohol and outside influencers, not as primarily alcohol use disorder.
I tried to talk to her almost a year ago about the effect of alcohol on her brain. She said it didn't apply to her.
"If the threshold where they see brain changes in women is 400ml of wine a day for 10 years, and you're double that and not eating well, then it applies to you."
No it doesn't apply. If that was true they'd see it in lots of people.
"They do. In everyone they examine. Everyone. That's why it's identified as the threshold. They see it in 100% of women they examine."
No. That's not true. It doesn't apply.
So.... Yes, there are concerns about the degree of alcohol intake, and that it's effected her thinking.
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You cannot convince an addict of danger of their addiction. If that was the case no one would drink or use drugs because everyone knows it’s bad for you. That’s not how addictions work.
You didn’t cause it and you cannot cure it.
Desire to quit has to come from her. And her saying it doesn’t apply to her doesn’t mean she believes it doesn’t apply to her. Alcoholics say all kind of goofy things when confronted about their alcohol consumption.