It's really hard. I'm not going to lie, it's really hard.

Someone in my long list of posts said:

"You wife said she wants to divorce you. Believe her."

They weren't wrong.

At this point if your partner stays there won't be much stability to build off moving forward.

I don't want to talk you into or out of staying. If going away to visit friends for a weekend will result in divorce papers then what else will?

I've been there. I've put off seeing people, I've put off living, because it may tip the scales to divorce for years.

It's a hard way to live, isn't it?

If someone doesn't think you're good enough, how do you talk them into believing you are?

One thing my father said got me through my early weeks of separation because I wanted her back so terribly. He said, you can't beg someone to stay or come back, and put conditions on them. Let her go, be clear about your feelings and that you want to be together, and IF she comes back, you attach conditions and expectations for how she treats you.

Until she asks to reconcile you have no bargaining power.

This is my only serious relationship. I built a life with her. This hurts, but the hurt lessens.

I saw her in person on Sunday.... No effect.

I'd hug you in person if I was closer.

Private message me anytime.


RDMercer