Open Eyes, when I first came here to the forums, you were the one who really helped me understand codependency and how being in one of these unhealthy situations causes someone (like me) to slowly and systematically lose myself and to become horrifically codependent in the process. You don't even realize it is happening.

One thing that was especially tough for me to understand was that codependency doesn't necessarily mean alcohol is involved. While I feel alcohol is a factor in my situation, the bigger situation seemed to be his increasingly narcissistic behaviors (both overt and covert), him acting ever more entitled, and me trying to placate the person I loved at the expense of myself- without realizing it.

It's a hard road back.