This list is a list of surface level achievements. If you want to truly connect with someone it is done at the soul connection level.
I had to learn the hard way because neither my parents nor my now ex-husband ever connected at a deeper level. Go figure, it took my soulmate doggie to teach me about connection, then I could start applying it to the people around me. I am actually happe as single me with my farm that takes most of my energy & never look for crushes.....but if you can't connect at a deeper level with people you are just around, it will still be impossible to connect well with someone you are really interested in....could very well be that they go off with the someone who has actually truly connected at a much deeper than surface level