It sounds like a hard thing... On the one hand to act maturely in the sense of giving him the space that he has requested and that you know he legitimately and understandably needs... On the other hand wanting to act maturely in the sense of having an intimate relationship where you can be honest and open about your feelings and thoughts that are so important to you... A little like being caught between a rock and a hard place.

Do you have a therapist? I guess I'm wondering whether it might help you to be able to talk to your therapist about how awful you feel when you are alone sometimes. Sometimes talking about it will help us feel a little better. Then because we are feeling better we are able to be honest and open about feeling okay and that doesn't strain the relationship at all.

You know, I had a similar thing with my ex boyfriend. Trying to have a healthy relationship... Finding it hard sometimes. Not wanting to be demanding... But also wanting to be honest and open with him. It was hard. It really helped me to talk to my therapist about that.

It also helped to get some other things going on in my life. Other friends. Other hobbies etc. Is there anything you can do to meet other people so you have some more people to talk to and hang out with as well?