Well, you set out to become a painter and you accomplished that.

You set out to tango and you accomplished that.

What if you set out to to develop a better social pattern--by, for example, seeking therapy, by avoiding the "comforting friend" role, by "sitting with" anxiety rather than avoiding situations that give rise to it?

It seems to me that dancing, and having a good sense of humour, in themselves require social skills, attunement to others. What if you set out to build on those skills in order to reach your goal of more satisfying social experiences?