The Mexican guy did not work out. I met with him once but it was clear that his English was too limited. Say, if I wanted to discuss sexual safety with him, I would not have found the right words. It was a show stopper. It happened before A. said he would come in October. I told the Mexican guy that I liked him a lot but was in a relationship. I was not at the time but thought that this way it would not be hurtful to him.

I think you turn your German guy on! It is a problem of his that he does not ejaculate every time and takes that long, but it is not a reflection on your attractiveness and sex appeal. He told you that yours if the best sex in his life and he is old enough to make that judgment confidently. Believe him! That you are able to orgasm several times while he by necessity prolongs your sex sessions is wonderful, too. I think in your case, unlike in mine (with the Indian gentleman), there are advantages to sexual dysfunction.

As Beth has predicted in his thread, the Indian gentleman is trying to get back into my life. He wants to try again, thinking he will be OK this time. I do not want to revisit this at all. I am going to be firm, but I do not want to tell him that I am choosing another man. I think he has a sensitive soul and it will be hard for him. He is currently looking at a job opportunity that, if it works out, will take him out of the area. I am waiting. If the issue self-resolves, great. If not (if he stays in the area), I will just tell him that I do not want to go back. Hopefully this will do it and then, if my relationship with A. works out well, it will be after a long enough span of time to heal some wounds for him. Last time he raised the issue, I was surprised since by then I had started thinking it would be in the past. But he did. And I said nothing at that time. I was in a state of minor shock that it was not at all in the past for him. He said something along the lines of it being the biggest loss in his life that he was not able to give me the pleasure of penetration, that he wants to try again and thinks that he would be OK and that he also wants to give me oral. Internally, I went "no way", but outwardly I did not say anything thinking that I should think about which words to use. Maybe it was wrong not to put a stop on it right away since it gave him wrong ideas. I was just that, shocked.