Yes, theoretically, he owes me. But when I've brought it up in that way to him, he has become extremely defensive and argumentative, telling me that he spent thousands of dollars on us while we were together, so in his mind, it all cancels out. He's wrong, but I refuse to continue to argue the point with him.

I'd much rather receive the money through legal means than freely accepting it from him in this way. I know myself... and I know that as a result, IF I accept this money now, I will feel obligated to be nice, to accept his calls and texts and to speak with him whenever I run into him. It's who and how I am, and I cannot change that.

No... the answer is unequivocally NO. I will not take 10K from him. Not in this way. I see it as yet another way to manipulate and control me and I won't allow it.

The other day after he lit into me and berated me on the phone, I told him over text that I never wish to speak or hear from him again. I told him he has NOT changed, and that he is an abusive mother fu*cker.

I will eat all my words if I accept money from him in this way. The only way I would accept money is if it came from a legal standpoint.

I must break free of him and for good.