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Apr 14, 2023, 08:19 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2016
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 2,749
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Originally Posted by nonightowl
Odd that you started this thread, as I was just thinking about this! And decided to see what threads you started, and voila!
I don't do this anymore, not for years and years. There was one exception when I saw this woman at the library I THOUGHT I had a good rapport with. She was always there at the same time, next to me on the computers---pre-COVID. I saw her the first time and after years. I gave her MY number, and I didn't ask for hers. Yet she gave it to me, in hindsight I think, out of politeness. She then gave me some lame excuse that her phone is out of order.
I've had people tell me this before: Their phone is broken, their phone has no service, they lost my number, their contacts got erased, etc. and it turned out to be a lie. If you're going to do that, at least be original.
She never did call me and I did not call her, as my BS radar was picking up something.
I've had people ask for MY number, yet never call me. Then why ask? In some cases, I also had their number. But when calling I got the message of "Why are you calling me?" Well you gave me your effing number, that's why.
I've found it better to give MY info, that way if they are truly interested they will contact me. It's up to them, gives them the choice. Like you I don't want to seem too needy either, as I've been told that when simply trying to make friends. We are social creatures, humans are hard wired to seek out others. It was originally for survival and it still is, whether people admit it or not.
I agree. I don't ask unless it's needed like you said, such as if the book club gets cancelled, or if I'm going to be late, I need the number of one of the leaders so I can contact them. Stuff like that.
That pandemic has also done a real number on me too, in more ways than one....
I thought it would bring people together but it had the opposite effect. It's not just physically distancing but people just kept to themselves, maybe not even going online anymore.
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Yep exactly, I never understood why people take the initiative to give you their number only to get annoyed if you contact them. Once years ago, an acquaintance I got along with well gave me their number and I actually waited quite some time before initiating contact and just suggested we meet up if they felt like it. Their response was we're not friends, I just said I know that and was just suggesting something and saying hi. Also I've heard those lame excuses too, the only one that could actually happen is contacts being erased when getting a new phone since it's happened to me and even that is rare but other than that all those excuses are BS. People can be weird and I agree the pandemic made matters worse, I've noticed there's even less people online and the ones that are online seem to be more cold and unforgiving.
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