I saw a woman once with a t-shirt that said 49% sweetheart, 51% biotch. I think that's what we all need in a way. And it's not biotch so much as self-preservation.

I have mixed feelings about you not taking the 10K but of course it's your decision - I think it's reasonable to refuse if you will feel obligated. And the huge bouquet of flowers bothers me because he obviously still thinks you will come around.

I think he is lying about where the money comes from. If she was hoping to use the money if she needed care, then it wasn't life insurance because that only pays if you die. If the money was from a life insurance policy on someone else (for example her late husband), then she had the money in her bank account and Ken knew he would be getting some if she died.

Anyway... If you can't get the money through legal process, then it may be best just to write it off as a loss and move on. At least if you refuse any money from him, he will know the door is closed on getting back together.

It does bug me that he has received such a huge sum of money and gets to skip away from any obligation on stuff he should have paid half for. However, that's how the world works. The main thing is that you can turn the page.