My wife's (abusive) mother died in June and the estate still hasn't been settled. She set up a will, an executor and a trust (which, unfortunately, was revocable, so became partially depleted).

We started to think about estate planning twice. However, we're stuck on choosing a executor. I'm a loner and my wife has been sick and disabled for over a decade. One sure way to drive people away is to suddenly become Special Needs.