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Old Apr 16, 2023, 09:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Samicat View Post
I think it's good you will talk to a lawyer about this. I know you, and therefore I know that you are not a gold digger or even a money-centred person. A lot of women would not even have considered being with a man who made less money than them in the first place, or who spent too much, or whose income was not secure. Let alone paying for the marriage and honeymoon.


My point is that I understand why you didn't try for alimony or focus on his finances. And of course due to the biased legal advice.


You are 100% in the right in pursuing legal advice regarding his inheritance. I think he may have lied about his mother's financial condition, and that he knew he was getting that huge amount of money, and that is despicable if true. Ethics of whether you are "entitled to his future inheritance" seem weird here - we're not really talking about the future. We're talking about what he knew while you were still married, and if he declared it as he should have. And that he has received it while you are still legally married. And he knew that you lost your job. Ugh, what a jerk.
Thank you @Samicat! I appreciate the fact that you already know me very well and that you know I am not a money hungry gold digging type of character. It's not who I am at all. This is about what is right and wrong in the eyes of the law.

And I think at the very least, he knew about the full inheritance amount at the time of her death, and perhaps even beforehand when they knew she was dying in Aug/Sept.

Agreed- we're not talking about any future inheritances. We're talking about 1, and a current one.

Thanks so much for your supportive and caring reply!
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