Welcome here. blueunder. I read your post in the other forum too, and I was wondering if you have ever researched Personality Disorders such as Borderling Personality Disorder.

Borderlines and those with any personality disorder are not bad people, but they have ways of perceiving and reacting that don't work for them the way they want. It isn't unusual for Borderlines to be given other diagnoses.

Do you like to read? "get me out of here" by rachel reiland is a good book about her personal experience with Borderline. Another good book is "I Hate You / Don't Leave Me" by Jerold Kreisman & Hal Strauss.

Here are some links to some additional reading:
Psych Central: Personality Disorders , WebMD: Borderline PD Overview , Psychology Today: Borderline

Long term psychotherapy has been recently determined to be the most promising treatment.

For me, the severe mood shifts is the most difficult symptom. I can be perfectly fine one moment, then intensely desparing the next. It makes it seem as if the world is moving too fast for me to keep up--I want to scream for everything to stop a minute! It takes work with a good psychotherapist to help slow down these shifts to learn about them, to learn what they're about, what the anger is about. I was lucky to find a psychoanalytic psychotherapist who is comfortable working with the diagnosis, although I did not know the diagnosis until I had been seeing her for a year. Historically, my diagnosis has been depression with anxiety or anxiety with depression. Finally with the Borderline diagnosis, I have a better term that really fits and that makes me feel like not such a freak.

I hope the links are helpful to you.