Oh we’re not that dissimilar, I do like deeper one to one discussion with the right people, and I can count on one hand the number I do have that closeness with. It took a long time to develop that closeness though and the activity based approach was a good way to be social and get to slowly know people.

I’m reading the situation you’re describing as a friendship group cultivated online with in person meet ups is that right? You sound like you have a pretty good insight into the behaviour of these people, but that you feel that you have a general issue with attracting this sort of self obsessed person? I’m wondering if you feel a change of approach might help you. This isn’t the same as saying it’s your fault btw, sometimes we unknowingly end up with the wrong people because it can feel familiar to us sometimes to do with our family of origin.